The Psychotherapeutic Process
of TBQ
Briefly explained, it can be said that there are four stages in the process.
- RECOGNITION
Elections
In the psychotherapeutic process, the first crucial step is recognition. We recognize that each of us has the power to make decisions in our lives, and that these decisions influence our current path.
It is essential to remember that, although we may sometimes feel influenced or pressured when making decisions, at the end of the day, the responsibility lies with us. We must be aware of our choices and take responsibility for the consequences they entail.
In therapy, we can collaborate to examine our choices and how they affect our emotional and physical well-being. By better understanding our decisions, we can begin to make more conscious and positive decisions that bring us closer to our health and well-being goals.
In conclusion, recognizing the importance of our choices is the first step in the psychotherapy process. Together, we can explore our choices and work to make more conscious and positive decisions that improve our overall well-being.
“Until the unconscious becomes conscious, the subconscious will take control of the conscious and that will be called destiny.” C. Jung.
In our daily lives, our decisions shape our path. However, when we feel that circumstances are beyond us and beyond our control, it can be a sign that something is not right in our lives.
In times like accidents or unfortunate events, where it seems like we were in the wrong place at the wrong time, it is important to reflect on what is happening in our lives.
Sometimes, we immerse ourselves in routine or avoid conflicts at work, family, partner or with children. But by avoiding these situations, our mind becomes distracted and our intuition becomes clouded. We risk getting into complicated situations or not preventing accidents.
We may justify it as “an accident,” but this can be a distraction from our present life and its purpose.
In therapy, we can work together to understand how our past decisions have led us to our current situation. We can learn to make more conscious and positive decisions to improve our overall well-being. Together, we can live more consciously and focused on our emotional and physical well-being.
Letting Letting circumstances or the decisions of others dominate us can make us slaves to the unexpected. By ceding our responsibility and power to others, we lose control of our existence, allowing others to direct our destiny aimlessly.
It is essential to recognize that our choices have consequences, both positive and negative, that can significantly affect our emotional and physical health and well-being. Therefore, it is crucial to take responsibility for our decisions and collaborate with a therapist to make more conscious and positive decisions in the future.
In therapy, we can explore how our past choices and behaviors have shaped our current life and work to develop effective skills and strategies to approach future situations more consciously and positively. By doing so, we can regain control of our existence and live a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
In short, maintaining control of our existence is essential for our emotional and physical well-being. In therapy, we can work together to develop effective skills and strategies to make conscious, positive decisions in the future, thereby regaining control of our lives.
"A true education for our children consists of helping them to be authentic, to learn to make the best decisions in their lives, without influencing their choices with our own considerations."
In life, we reach a point where we realize that the situations we find ourselves in are the result of our upbringing, learned circumstances and acquired habits, or of having given up our responsibility to others. By reaching this conclusion, we take a step forward and begin to recognize that we are part of the problem, which allows us to begin to redirect our lives.
In therapy, this moment is known as "realizing." It is when we understand that several people participate in a situation, with us being the main actors. This moment marks the beginning of the solution to our difficulties.
We can learn to face our problems with professional help or continue to avoid them, looking for quick solutions or waiting for circumstances to change. However, sooner or later, we will have to face the situation.
In therapy, we can work together to explore our patterns of thinking and behavior that have led us to where we are today. We develop skills and strategies to confront problems more consciously and positively in the future, thus taking control of our lives and living more fully.
In short, recognizing our responsibility in the situations we find ourselves in is essential to redirect our lives. In therapy, we can work together to confront problems consciously and positively, taking control of our lives and living more satisfying and meaningful lives.
"NOTHING WILL HAPPEN IF I DON'T GIVE PERMISSION FOR something TO HAPPEN THAT EXPERIENCE, BUT IT WILL ALSO REMAIN UNFINISHED IF I DON'T CLOSE IT."
Opening the door that confronts us with ourselves can generate vertigo and fear of pain and the healing process. It is natural to want to avoid suffering, but let us remember that identifying our difficulties is the first step to finding solutions and leading a more satisfying life.
In this process, having the support of an experienced and professional therapist is crucial. Like Dante guided by Virgil in the Divine Comedy, a good therapist can accompany us and ask the right questions so that we see the situation clearly and understand what is happening to us.
2. Forgiveness
It is crucial to understand that forgiveness is not an apology. Forgiveness is a liberation that allows us to leave the past behind and move towards a more positive and satisfying future.
Although some therapeutic techniques help us reach “realization,” they often do not completely close the loop. Recognizing the importance of closing this cycle is fundamental to our healing and transformation process.
Unfortunately, some people, in their search for therapeutic help, become trapped in an endless cycle, jumping from one psychological purgatory to another, because they have not found the appropriate help to close their processes. It is crucial to choose a therapist who can guide us through this closure and help us move towards a more positive future.
In therapy, we work together to close these processes and free ourselves from the past. Through forgiveness and acceptance, we leave hurts behind and move toward a fuller, more satisfying life.
In short, forgiveness frees us from the past and propels us toward a more positive future. Working with a therapist who can help us close these processes is key to moving towards a fuller and more satisfying life.
"Opening a process is not easy, but closing it is an art."
The process of forgiveness is complex and delicate, as it involves a fine line between responsibility and guilt. The therapist who accompanies us must help us understand that, while we are not responsible for the choices of others, we also cannot blame external circumstances entirely.
It is easy to fall into victimhood or feel guilty, but it is crucial to draw the line between responsibility and guilt to avoid feelings of resentment and hatred.
This stage requires patience and understanding on the part of the therapist who accompanies us.
When opening a process is like opening a wound, moving to the process of forgiveness is like starting the healing stage and you have to prevent it from becoming infected.
Forgiveness involves a profound transformation, an act of contrition that leads us to understand that our power lies within us. We recognize that we are responsible for our decisions and that it is necessary to live in congruence with our values, even if this means facing pain.
We cannot live in falsehood or avoid difficult situations for fear of pain, neither our own pain nor that of others. Sometimes, it is necessary to let go of situations or people that hurt us, which requires courage.
The process of forgiveness can take time, but when we understand that sincerity and honesty begin with ourselves, we begin a process of deep transformation through forgiveness.
In colloquial terms, it is when the wound has healed and is out of danger of infection.
3. Transformation
The transformation stage is a continuous process in which we learn to live with new paradigms. This means being alert to avoid repeating old patterns and adapting to new ones, which takes time.
Transformation does not mean changing, but rather taking advantage of our past experiences as learning and converting the negative into opportunities for growth.
This process is not quick. Although we have forgiven and become aware, we must learn to avoid falling into the same mistakes of the past. By understanding how our mind works, we know that each learning requires practice and repetition until mind, body and spirit are aligned. When we achieve this synchronization, we achieve true transformation.
“The most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you found why” Mark Twain.
4. Learning
By reaching this point, we reach true wisdom. We have integrated the lessons learned and can express clearly and simply what we have understood. It is as if new skin replaces the old scar.
When we achieve this synthesis, we have completely closed the circle. We have mended the broken wagon wheel and are ready to move forward with renewed strength and understanding.
If you are ready to start your journey, ask for help and go to the professionals.
“Life gives you many opportunities to transform yourself, even many lives, but to do so you only need a moment.”
Buddha.
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